{"id":3038,"date":"2018-05-09T19:39:36","date_gmt":"2018-05-10T01:39:36","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.mooreds.com\/wordpress\/?p=3038"},"modified":"2018-05-08T19:40:16","modified_gmt":"2018-05-09T01:40:16","slug":"what-do-i-do-when-someones-doing-something-wrong","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.mooreds.com\/wordpress\/archives\/3038","title":{"rendered":"What do I do when someone’s doing something wrong?"},"content":{"rendered":"
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Uh, I think you’re in a little deep<\/figcaption><\/figure>\n

Somewhere, sometime, someone will do something wrong. It happens more often than you think. (That person might even be me.)<\/p>\n

When they do, I have an innate desire to correct them, to show them the benefit of my mistakes and to enlighten them. This is, in itself, wrong.<\/p>\n

What should I do instead? A couple of things.<\/p>\n

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  1. Make sure I really understand the issue they are facing. Sometimes I can gain an appreciation for their choice once I have more information about the situation, and sometimes my questioning can cause them to make different decisions or to revise their thinking.<\/li>\n
  2. Think about whether I have all the context. (This one’s easy; I don’t<\/strong>.) So remember to consider that from their perspective choices make more sense than from mine.<\/li>\n
  3. I consider the ramifications of a poor decision. It’s better to let someone choose an obviously wrong course when the stakes are low. We’ve all made mistakes (I deleted an entire table from a production database<\/a>!) and that’s the best way to learn. However, if the stakes are high, that means a discussion is more warrented.<\/li>\n
  4. Contemplate my role. Is this a peer? An old friend? An ex-colleague? A mentor? A mentee? Someone I’ve just met? Each of these types of people have different tolerance for my opinion.<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n

    In short, rather than just explaining to someone why they are wrong, I need to stop and think about the entire context of the situation, including what I’ve missed, what the consequences of the action are, and my role.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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